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Comment from darlene
Time: August 8, 2007, 8:48 pm

I don’t understand why women do this to themselves. There are plenty of great men out there that are single. I won’t make a moral judgement here, but if it bothers you that he leaves, then it’s time to end the relationship and find someone better or have him end his.

Comment from anonymous
Time: August 8, 2007, 11:08 pm

I don’t want to leave, but you know the situation.

Comment from dede
Time: August 12, 2007, 9:52 pm

This seems to be an unhealthy relationship. Statistics say he won’t leave his wife not matter what he is saying to you.

Comment from lightyears
Time: September 1, 2007, 8:50 pm

@ anonymous

If there is a reason that you can’t, then you should break off the relationship until there is a way that you can. It is a selfish thing to be doing unless both women know about it and agree which I highly doubt is the case.

Comment from renee
Time: September 7, 2007, 5:35 am

Find yourself someone else. He will never leave her for you and if he does, what’s to stop him from doing the same thing to you?

Comment from Cheddar
Time: September 11, 2007, 4:10 pm

It’s nothing to do with his wife. The two of you have something great. Enjoy it.

Disregard the moralists. They don’t know the fire in your heart.

Comment from Things happen…What are you going to do.
Time: September 13, 2007, 7:03 pm

No one every gets involved in this sort of relationship lightly.

The easy thing to say is that he is a jerk and you’er a heartless $#@! for knowingly being involved with a married man. That would be the easy thing to say. But as we all know life is not easy and certainly not so black and white.

I think that when people cheat they really are tring to fill a hole in their life. Something that is missing either from the relationship or something missing inside themselves. Some voids can be filled and some will never be filled.

Why do you think he is cheating? What kind of void does he have in his life? Do you think you fill it or will it never filled?

Comment from anonymous
Time: September 24, 2007, 5:35 pm

She leaves me every morning to be with her husband.

Comment from greenday
Time: October 3, 2007, 5:07 pm

You have the choice not to let him into your bed if this is something that you don’t like.

Comment from Bernice
Time: October 8, 2007, 2:39 am

Of course he leaves you and goes back to his wife every morning… she matters more than you do… so does his home, his car, his job, his vacation, his company party, etc. And… these things will alway be more important than you or he would do things differently. The fact is with married people… they are ALWAYS in a situation that they can’t leave or control… lame excuses is what I call them to have their cake and eat it too… lose him and find someone available… here’s a novel idea… find someone that can spend Christmas and New Years with you instead of you being alone because his “situation” won’t “allow” him to be there with you… that and the fact that he’d rather watch his wife opens her present… if that wasn’t the case… he’d be there watching you open yours…. Lose him girl… quick…. HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

And shame on you for cheating no matter the situation… you have no right dragging anyone into your life being married… suck it up and honor your vows or get out of the marriage… many people live without sex until the right person or situation allows differently… its not going to fall off if you don’t use it for awhile… it will still be there when you get divorced… cheater…. cry baby… wha-wha…. want some cheese with that excuse??

Comment from Cheddar
Time: October 10, 2007, 3:06 pm

Why are you assuming it’s all about the sex, Bernice?

Also, things do change. I know a married couple who were together while the man was still married to someone else. They’re now happily married with two great kids.

Comment from Bernice
Time: October 10, 2007, 6:56 pm

“He leaves me every morning”… I guess they could have stayed up and talked most of the night… my bad.

I base my assumptions on the knowledge I have of extramarital affairs my friends have been in … and from experiences from married men on the Internet cruising for prey… and almost all are based on getting sex… bottom line.

I have a girlfriend who seems to thrive on the married man abuse, and ends up crying each time because the married man “cannot” leave his situtation… I have other friends who have been involved occasionally with married men, but unlike the one friend, learned their lessons quickly and refuse to entertain the “married man” syndrome any longer.

Yes, things can change, I am not saying a good relationship cannot come from those situations, but the fact remains… One or both are married to other partners… divorce and then get the new relationship going…

Just because the “couple” ended up happily married does not change the possible damage infidelity can cause the other spouse (and even others close to the marriage) while married or even afterwards… There are other people involved besides the “happily ever after couple”… infidelity can cause deep and sometimes lasting negative affects on people’s self-esteem and trust of other people… it would be kinder just to walk up to the spouse and tell them you are having the affair… most people can deal with the truth… It is the lies and breaking of trust people have a hard time with, especially with ceremonial vows, like a wedding.

One woman I know personally, finally caught her husband cheating on her… and when the wash water was thrown out to door and the divorce ensured… she found out her husband was telling the “other woman” that his wife (she)was battling colon cancer and couldn’t have sex any longer but he just couldn’t leave her during her time of sickness… and that is the same cancer this woman’s mother really died of… how devasting is that to a person do you think? And he was still having regular sex with his healthy wife… Until he got caught that is…

Have a backbone, tell your spouse you are no longer happy, bite the big one and split the assets, then find that “happily ever after” and then guess what… “He doesn’t have to leave me every morning”.

Comment from Bernice
Time: October 10, 2007, 7:06 pm

And as far as “having something great”…

Why the post “He leaves me every morning… For his wife…” underline, underline, underline ???

Why even bother to put it out there for the “moralists” comments????

Wave him goodbye in the morning - leave the door unlocked at night for him and enjoy all that “fire in your heart…” privately.

If you didn’t want an opinion, you shouldn’t have posted it??? Sheesh people…