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Comment from becs
Time: August 15, 2007, 12:06 am

You can choose to continue down the same path or decide that it’s time to find another road to travel upon. leaving the road to nowhere is not easy, but you’ll never regret it once you do.

Comment from michael
Time: August 16, 2007, 7:22 am

Self realization is the first step to recovery.

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Comment from kitty
Time: September 1, 2007, 2:48 pm

If you always do what you’ve always done you will always be where you’ve always been…(or something like that…)

Comment from anonymous
Time: September 4, 2007, 4:16 pm

There is no rule that says you have to stay on the same road you are currently on. Make a turn onto the first dirt road on the left.

Comment from deanbear
Time: September 6, 2007, 7:00 am

As long as you take a step, it is going somewhere.

Comment from sue
Time: September 8, 2007, 12:18 am

If you know it’s not where you want it to be going, then you know it’s time to makes some needed changes. They probably won’t be easy, but you’ll know you’re going somewhere.

Comment from Me
Time: September 16, 2007, 1:56 am

i agree with sue… if i were you i’d move to some foreign place or something crazy like that… on the other hand it won’t change your direction just your location. I’ve noticed that people are obsessed with trying to be uber rich when, in fact, your life isn’t measured by how much money you make. i’m rambling just do what ever feels good and f**k the rest!

Comment from dean
Time: September 27, 2007, 3:12 am

You have control over where your life goes. It isn’t always easy, but you can get where you want to go with effort. Decide today that you will no longer go nowhere.

Comment from Maveth
Time: January 11, 2008, 8:30 am

I feel the same way; many people do and most will tell you how to change, but its not a simple step. There’s always road blocks, like money, responsibilities, dependents, debts, limitations, etc. You feel like you are running out of time and if you don’t go somewhere fast, you’ll be trapped. I understand completely. While it may not help you necessarily, think of it in this light. How many times do you get to live your life? Will the world end if you do something spontaneous? Are all these shackles worth missing out on something you’ve dreamed about? I never thought so. Money and time are hard anchors to lose, but what are you spending it on now? Is there another way to do what you want?

Comment from justin
Time: March 10, 2008, 2:45 am

i feel that no matter what i do, or how hard i try, i just cant seem to please anybody in my life, whether it be my family or my friends or even the times when i have a “girlfriend” if you can even call it that. i mean, i havent ever had a relationship longer than a couple of months and it seems like its the same thing that always happens, “i think we are better off friends than anything” or my personal favorite, “you are just too nice” WTF! what do you want me to do about that! i mean seriously! im sorry you women like to fall for jerks but i cant possibly be one because for one, i dont know how, and two i have no desire to be that way! and my family always tells me to just be myself and everything will fall into place! fuck that! no it wont! cause ive been being myself and it dont fucking work! but i dont know how to change that other than just moving far away from everything i know and starting completely over, which is looking really good right now!! i dont know tho, maybe someone who is in the same situation can help! aight thanks for listening anyways!

MAGGOT FOR LIFE BABY!!

Comment from Derek
Time: April 17, 2008, 10:25 pm

hey justin
i have been in the same situation where it seems like noone is pleased with anything i do and i feel like an outsider and the stupid lets just be friends stuff is hard to deal with and believe me you can find someone that will like you for who you are i had a 6 year relationship i never thought i would be with someone that long but it seemed like she didnt care about all the bad things that i did and she accepted me for who i was but she broke it off with me and i was the fool apologizing to her when she should have given me a little credit for all i did it was long distance and i moved to her town 2000 miles away twice to make it work and she wasnt willing to help me with anything and she was unappreciative of my efforts well all i can say is big waste of time next time ill be careful about the decisions i make regarding relationships and i know that i will find a better one and she wasnt the right one for me and thats cool but i still put alot of effort and time into a relationship i learned alot though through the process your family is right stay true to who you are there is someone out there for you and you will find it when you least expect it keep the faith

Comment from paul
Time: March 8, 2009, 7:25 pm

im so alone…. i feel the same way all of you do… is there a cure? is there something that can be done? i havent had a real job my whole life… i have no confidence left in my self i never want to leave my house… i could go on and on… is their any one out there who can help in resolving my pain, my sorrows, my heartaches… this endless feeling of loneliness in my heart?

Comment from Jeff
Time: April 2, 2009, 7:39 pm

I have so much to be grateful for but I keep making bad descisions. What the fuck is wrong with me? I have a loving wife, a beautiful daughter but a suck ass job. I know I have to make changes but can I talk myself into commiting to do what it takes to change my life? I guess time will tell or I will eventually run out of time.

Comment from Matt
Time: May 31, 2009, 10:18 am

For all of you that are asking why this or that keeps happening, whether it be relationships or money, drugs or despair. The only things that will never try to hurt you are those things that you never run into. EVERYTHING is going to try to crumble whatever castle you build, but what makes us human is the ability to change the defenses against it. Like rain on a roof, we are hit hard with peoples opinions, rules etc., but we have to persevere. Nobody can bring you down if you remember that hapiness comes from within, and NOBODY can take that from you. Unfortunately we are givin this set of rules when we are raised, on how to live and what to obtain in life. Honestly, if you look at that set of rules, it basically means we were made to go through a strict set of motions untill we die, almost as if we are born with debt that can only be repaid by working untill we are old and fragile, then stripped of even more and placed in homes provided by government care, if you want to even call it that. What I dare everyone who reads this is to step off this path. It was made by men, and we can def. change it. Peace brothers and sisters.

Comment from Aaron
Time: June 1, 2009, 2:06 pm

Well, I’m 32 and I thought that my life was going to be making music with my good friend. That isn’t happening after 5 years of doing the band and working shitty jobs. My band cohort was a friend that turned out to be a total piece of shit. Hardly anything works out the way you want it to. Now, I have been laid off like millions of other Americans. I’m living with my parents now, and I feel like such a waste of space. Hope is the only thing that I have to hold on to. I don’t even really worry about meeting women anymore, I’m just trying to find a reason to go on. All any of us can do is try over and over again, even if your happiness lasts for a few minutes, you need to lock it into your memory so you can go to that point in time and remember what it feels like to be happy. A positive mental attitude is so valuable, and that is the only key to success in our lives. We all have to work hard at achieving it. Believe me, I know it seems impossible. It isn’t impossible, we control the perception of our environment. Let’s change! What do we have to lose?

Comment from Rick
Time: February 16, 2010, 4:28 pm

Well I’m in a similar place to a lot of people, my life sucks, whatever I get what ever I have is never ever enough, I’ve moved 14 times in the last five years I went from a tent to a cliff to a mental hospital to another mental hospital to shared house and moved from area to area place to place. Saying that with minimal effort I now have a house with a jacuzzi in it , fully furnished with leather couches and a new kitchen , hell I did’nt even need to pay the deposit and don’t pay bills or rent, surely I should be fukking dancing around like some mindless lucky twit … Well I’m not I’m miserable, I’ve fallen in love with someone in another country, I live hundreds of miles from my nearest family member my family are all driving me mad to come home . I cant stand the place where I came from.I have all these great talents and no idea what to do with them. The conflict in my head is pathetic. I never finish what I start I wanna do everything all at once and I feel I’m just a pathetic sorry looser. Oh and the worst thing is I can sort everyone elses problems in a methodical fashion and it works, when it comes to me I can’t even take my library books back on time ahhhhhhhhh

Comment from Ellie
Time: March 6, 2010, 10:58 pm

I found this random site by googling I am alone or something like that. Don’t feel bad. I am 37, and feel like I don’t know what to do anymore or get out of my present situation. I am very angry lately and jealous of what other people have. I have no job and I am living with an Uncle who can be abusive and his friend lives upstairs. They are angry sob’s who will deprive me of hot water by running the hot water all day long so that all I have for a shower is cold water. His house is nice, but not if I have to live with him or his house is not livable more like the dead zone. I thought I would have something more in life by now. We don’t have a phone in the house anymore partially because my Uncle is psychotic and gets angry at the phone if it rings and did I mention he worked at the Post Office his whole life. I know it is no good for me to be around messed up people. I am going to college to get a B.A. in Accounting, but what I would really like is to move to another state so that I can find a job and make some money to do things I want for fun. I don’t want everything. I am not greedy. All I want to do is live a simple life. At the moment taking the road less traveled would mean I live on the street. I don’t put myself down, but when my Uncle is out of the house or I am at school I am happy and content. I would be happy with an apartment, job etc. just the simple things.

Comment from yo yo
Time: April 3, 2010, 11:38 pm

i hate my life and im 17

Comment from Luca
Time: April 5, 2010, 6:00 am

I just googeled the phrase ” my life is going nowhere ” just for the sake of it.
Because google knows it all, and maybe it would give me some advice.
So here i am. i just finished reading the previous posts, and its a relief to know im not alone in this mess we call LIFE.
Im 24 years old. Love music, reading , historiy, all forms of arts. And i happen to know a lot about it.
But my knowledge is of no use in the practical everyday world.
I dont want to be a mall manager
i dont want to study something i hate, for i will continue to hate my life afterwards.
I dont want to work 8 hours in a job i hate just to buy shit i dont really need.
People say ” you have the chance to study , you should take it, only a fool… ”

Everyone around me seem to be so sure about what they want to do with their life.
I just cant forget the fact that we are actually floating on a rock through space…
We have no idea what we are doing here, then why the fuck should i care about dow jones? or having 2 kids and a golden retriver. The green grass. The stupid wife.

Its all just a big waste.
I dont intentd to sound like a russian nihilist here but…
Dosent the answer jump in front of yours eyes all of the sudden?
By this i mean suicide.

To me it seems like the only honest choice right now.
I cant keep on trying, i never finish anything.
Im completely useless and unpractical.

Ah at least its nice knowing im not the only one who thinks like this.
Take care out there, and keep searching…

Comment from ed
Time: May 16, 2010, 10:59 pm

hi i googled ” my life is going nowhere” and found this blog..its nice to know i am not alone. I’m 32 and i am a musician/sound engineer/mechanical engineer and for the past 8 years i have given everything for a dream that never came true, i recorded and album with a friend who turned out to be a terrible person, i put all of my time money and love into it, and nothing happened. i love making music and i do it very well, it is a talent that was given to me and i feel privileged to have, but it is so hard to have this talent and not be able to do anything with it, many praise my songs( and i don’t wanna be arrogant, but it’s the truth people inside the business with grammy’s and stuff), and the things i do, but i can’t make money with it, i have not been given a real chance and that pisses me off. I still live with my mother, i have a girl i love but i just feel like a failure, and now i just finished a sound engineering course and realized that i don’t really want to be just behind a board moving knobs, my thing is making the music, not just assisting to record it, and that brings me back to the same place i started. no money no job, no real accomplishment. They tell us to work hard and that if you follow your dreams and work for it them they will come true, but that is just no true, it only works in the movies i guess. It’s hard to see all your friends evolving while I’m stuck in the same place as 10 years ago. i have worked as a mechanical engineer but i hate it… i really don’t know what my future will be. but it seems like life ever since i graduated just never gets easy. i won’t lie i have had a great life, and i am grateful for my parents specially my mother, who love me so much, i have traveled a lot and seen many places, but It has been thanks to my parents, I feel like i have not gotten anything on my own, and that is a terrible feeling. thanks for listening and take care everybody

Comment from k.i.a.
Time: May 28, 2010, 11:46 am

hi ed….i totally know where you are coming from… a little older than you i still have the same passion…music…i started in the performing arts theatre dance etc…i always wrote peotry and fell into studio work..i have written many songs…ive married twice and have had both husbands make me feel it was time to be giving ‘this thingup’…i have 2 children and they are my work on top of working..ive done it all..i have tosay i am proud..i lived in a beautiful place…was a popular radio host and opened in amusic fest for the top music artists in the world…that was all fun…but im still not making a living….still treading water , still trying to be a mom, provider…..a song i wrote is on the verge of being picked up by a big star in the uk….its been played in abc on a famous soap opera and used in areality show in vegas…but im tiredand still praying that i can one day feel like it was worth he wait….´never give up they say…..i guess whenyou have kids lik me the rope gets thinner and thinner and you start to wonder….i would say focus on your passion and….just keep going…

Comment from godschild
Time: June 3, 2010, 10:14 pm

hi i came to discuss my life as a confuse soul.everyday i find myself lazy and scared to take a risk about my life, im 22 years old and still dont know how to live a life as a mature adult.im currently working at publix and staying with my aunt and with my 17 year old cousin, which i share the same room and bed with.what will it takes 4 me to wake up.all my life i consider myself as being dump and a talentless waste of human.sometime i wonder why god make me, cause i look around at everybody and notice everyone is better than me.im nothing special.i cant stay motivate if my life depend on it.during my teenage years i quitted life and try to kill myself but god still have me here for a reason but i dont know why.im not smart, bold, brave,or have a sigle bit of talent.why must i live on earth to watch myself fall apart as a person.

Comment from bob12
Time: September 23, 2010, 9:13 pm

Im 22 and have recently had to move back in with my parents ,because im incapable of holding down a job or college course. I feel like such a failure to my family and friends , and im constantly plauged by feelings of shame and regret. The only relief i get is through abusing alcohol. All i want is to get some sort of direction and meaning back in to my life , and it frightens me that i dont know how to do that.

Comment from Rudy
Time: October 18, 2010, 6:13 am

Stop being sorry for ur selves n keep holding on u never know when the ray might shine…. they say after every night there is a day….

my life is still stuck n will be unless something happens… but wht? when ? or never ….so its better to be happy in wht ever state ur in ….. God is very kind and Gracious.

Comment from kaitlyn
Time: November 6, 2010, 1:48 pm

I also googled “my life is going nowhere” cause its not
im 18 not finished high school im depressed stuck in a rut, suffering from bulimia i hate myself i think im absolutely just gross I need to spend no less than 2 hours a day trying to perfect myself before i step outside to do anything, theres a lot of time wasted right there, need to sleep at least 12 hours a day to actually feel rested, id never wake up if I didnt have to. work at a shitty call center and probably will for the rest of my life and live in a run down crappy little apartment. I had big dreams when I was little now im too unmotivated to even dream about anything
I dont know what im going to do, time is running out

Comment from d
Time: November 15, 2010, 5:33 pm

good to know. everyday i feel like a bigger and bigger waste of space. it feels like i go from one bad decision to the next faster and faster. i make bigger and bigger mistakes to try and fix the previous thing i messed up. although im at the place where i dont know what’s going on, i do know iv had good times before though. i know that there are those rare days where i tell myself that i am lucky to be here and lucky to have the life i have. so sometimes i just have to hold on to those memories, however old and faraway they may be at the time. and like the nihilist, iv thought that sucicide was the only logical choice sometimes too. like if a then b=die. but that can’t be right. I haven’t been through 24 years on this planet just to say the experiment is over. There’s a God watching over my life and seeing my mistakes and seeing my heart. He loves me and cares for and gave himself for me. The times that I remember my savior and commune with him are the times that this life is worth living. Those are the times i can ‘look at the stars and feel like myself.’ I’m learning that everyone can’t easily buy into Christianity but for me personally, it’s the only hope I have. The cross is the only thing i can ever run to for meaning and refuge.

Comment from James
Time: November 24, 2010, 6:43 am

I can relate to SO many of you and it is reassuring to know that I’m not alone.

I’m a 27 year old whose passion is music and art but my anxiety and feelings of great inferiority have prevented me from doing anything worthwhile with my talents. I’ve written and recorded my own songs since I was a kid. Unfortuneatly the only people who hears the recordings are my mom and gf and a couple friends. As a kid I always dreamed to be a “rock star” but as I got older and reality sank in, that dream just slipped away. I’ve thrown out that idea long ago and would be more than happy to be in a backup band etc.

I’ve never really had a job. I’ve been on disability for depression since I was 18. I never finished school. I’ve tried many times to go back and finish but I always give up. I’ve never ever had many friends. Right now I don’t really have anyone that I hang out with or talk to except my gf who lives with me. It doesnt help that the city I live in seems to be filled with stuck up people who wouldn’t give you the time of day.

I have much to be grateful for. I know there are so many people out there far, far worse off than me. That is why I feel such guilt inside of me. I feel guity for not working, I feel guilty for owning nice, expensive guitars. I dont deserve these things! I am in no way rich but with the help of my family over the years I have accquired these possessions.

Every waking hour I feel this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach – this unfufillment, this feeling that I’ve wasted my life and I continue to waste it by not making any changes. I’m extremely afriad of failure but nothing could be worse than how I feel now. So why can’t I change?? I feel I’m too shy, too different, too overweight to fit in anywhere and accomplish my goals. So I sleep all day (sometimes all night too), constantly miss and reschedule appointments and basically live an unhappy existance.

I’m constantly wishing and hoping to connect with someone out there. Someone who understands how I feel and who won’t judge me. I am a kind, loving person and I want to be social, meet new people, go new places and enjoy life. But I feel so different from anyone else.

I look at old school friends on facebook and see that they’re engaged or married and have graduated with this degree and that degree. One is a chiropractor, another a pharmasist, a teacher. What am I? I’m nothing. I’ve been the same for the last 10 years with hardly anything to show for it.

How can I change my situation? How can I start to lead a happy, successful life? HOW??

If there’s anyone out there that understands or feels the same, feel free to message me. I’m a good listener. cornwallace27 at hot mail

Take care and good luck everyone!

Comment from Anon-e-mouse
Time: December 1, 2010, 11:20 pm

I thinks its funny that the earlier posts were very motivational and then there are alot of people complaining. Dont hate cause My life is in a rut. I feel like life isnt moving forward instead its moving in reverse. But thanks everyone for the good laugh, i still hate where my life is. since i dont know how to focus on the positives of my life (maybe cause i dont have any) i focus on what could have been worse. so instead of a crappy house i couldve been out on the street. but its sooo hard. i feel like shit on someones shoes. i just live to make ppl annoyed for how useless i am. is this life is really supposed to be like… i should do good things and hope there is a better afterlife instead of being shammed into hell.

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